I'm a firm believer that chocolate is a CURE ALL.

Quick recap...

Celebrating Mardi Gras with the best friend & some others!

Girls day with Leanne & Tara

Being very responsible while scooting around town...



Life was crazy for a week or so with my application into the Special Education program....

I didn't unpack my stuff from AZ until a couple of days ago...it just sat in the kitchen.
It was quite the relief once I finished the application!


Group date! Girls owned in the nerf gun war!

Crepe party at Mel's, so yummy!

Tara & I's dates for the night, notice mine is brown...? :)

Dance party for amber's birthday :) Great night out with the girls.


Life has been really good lately. I get to fly home in a couple weeks...actually less than two weeks & I am thrilled about that. It will be the first time in a long time that my entire family is together. There are less than two months left of school...or life in Provo. I am pretty thrilled about this summer & the adventures that will take place. However, I would be more thrilled if I had a job lined up. Ah well, let's cross our fingers that it all comes together :)

Welcome back !

This post is going to be huge.

Life has been eventful to say the least.

I can hardly remember back to the moment Cosmo kissed me [the most recent thing I blogged about]. That's a lie....I'll never forget that moment.

Ellie visited. It was absolutely fantastic. I can't even wait for us to live together this summer in Portland. It will be SO adventurous!!



A day in SLC, visiting Krista Martin, photo shoots, and Temple Square

Making the boys dinner, stir fry, brown rice, & lots of laughs.

Ice skating, Ellie's first time, Chase & Bobby were too funny.

Park City shopping, beautiful men, & driving all the way to freaking WYOMING.

Super bowl party! Only there for the food, which explains why I didn't even know what teams were playing! whoops!

Game night with the boys :)

Pranks & KISSES?!

Kneeders, BYU bookstore, & FHE


A well needed escape to PHOENIX!


Cousin time: Play grounds, ice cream, & sunshine :)

seeing DANE for the first time in over a year :)

Little Letters ♥

Dear Blog,
I'm sorry I've been neglecting you. I promise to get to you as soon as my application is submitted and life returns to normal. I have not forgotten about you. Promise.

Dear Application,
For being the absolute necessity in getting me to where I want to be....I really am not very fond of you. I will not miss you once we part ways this week. Not one bit.

Dear apartment,
You will be deep cleaned, vacuumed, and organized soon. Right now you're too busy representing how hectic I feel to the rest of the universe. Thank you for that embarrassment by the way.

Dear upcoming week,
Please pass by smoothly & quickly.

Dear upcoming weekend,
Be prepared to live it up. We will be celebrating the completion of my application, and my return to a life of somewhat responsible irresponsibility and fun.

Life can trip you up on a perfect day

I have opened up a new post at least four times, written paragraphs, deleted them, and closed the window.

In short, my heart hurts. I don't remember the last time I even opened up enough to experience this feeling. It had to be over a year ago. I have an eight mile run in store for me tomorrow, that should take my mind of things slightly. I know that a few weeks from now, I will see clearly and this will all seem silly. Doug said to me tonight, "you know, it really does not matter how long it was...if you feel hurt, it really hurts." He's right. I feel silly, but I'm the type of person who invests in others. It is a blessing and a curse, really. It means I will be one fantastic wife and mother, but it does not serve me well in the dating game. The game is mean spirited. It goes against everything that is right, and good. I don't feel like I am capable of participating and I hope that in the end that benefits me. So after much chocolate, a good chat with Gwen & Doug, and time to think--I feel that life will be looking up very soon here.

Frankly, I have much more to focus on than silly situations such as this. The application into the program is due in 14 days and I have MUCH to do in order to be ready for that. I am starting to get really excited for this summer. It will be a great break away from the Provo scene. Lots of camping, backpacking, and hiking. I can hardly wait!

I leave for Phoenix early this Friday morning. That's right, I am escaping for the weekend. I feel it is a well earned escape though. I will be driving down with Tegan [what better company than that?] and will be able to see Dane on Sunday, and will stay with my uncle Isaac and his family. I feel like being with my uncle will act as sudo-dad time which is needed. On top of that, I will get some sun, and have plenty of time to think things through.

It should be a good weekend, and I hope to return clear-headed and ready for the rest of the semester. Right now I feel to exhausted to express myself any further so I should call it a night.

Friendship

I am such a friend pusher. I have realized, some people are food pushers [my mother, for example], some movie pushers, book pushers, ect. I am a friend pusher! I can't decide however, if that is a good thing or a bad thing. Allow me to explain.

Some of my most successful guy-girl friendships have come as the result of an unsuccessful romance. Whether he lost interest, or I did, often there bloomed an incredible friendship full of joking, playing, and bonding. It makes sense for this to happen right? I mean, if two people think they are capable to date one another, they clearly feel a sense of chemistry and common ground. So then, why is it that often if something ends, people choose to go their separate ways with no further communication?

While I understand the awkwardness, believe me, I get it, I also understand the prize to be won if one just pushes through this tricky stage for the sake of friendship! Oddly enough, I've realized in this situation, I would rather be the one experiencing the rejection, that way--the friendship is on my terms. I get to get over the awkwardness and they need to do nothing but wait and be friendly back. I hate when it is my job to wait and do nothing but be friendly. Why? Well, because I am a friend pusher.

Both Mark & Johnny have been results of things ending. I talk to them nearly daily, enjoy their company, and if anything just joke about the past silly situations we've been in. Now in my situation with _______ I am trying extremely hard to preserve a friendship. However, whenever I extend an invite, it comes off as pursuit for something more! I want to play, and talk, and have FUN. The trouble is, communicating this in such a way that it is not pursuing, and rubbing the fact that I don't want more in his face. The answer to all of this is obviously time and patience, and wow do I detest both. Ah well, I could afford to learn more patience.



Now for the fun stuff!
SATURDAY:

Ashely, Adam, Hilary, Mark, & I after the BYU basketball game !

SUNDAY:
-Church
-Dinner group, Tegan made swiss chicken, mmm mmm !
-Studying w/ Federico for NT

Tuesday:
-Running
-Basketball game
-Hot chocolate with Fred & then studying
-Chris Ah Sue & Matt Boyce stopped by
-BEDDDD.


Bobby & I at the BYU VS TCU game!

Cosmo, Tara, & I

Getting dipped and kissed by COSMOOO ! I am one LUCKYY girl !

Just a play by play

So rock climbing was awesome to say the least. Tara seemed to enjoy it a lot too so I think we will be going back Monday! :)


After, Tara had Matt over & he brought a friend. It was way fun but I think the friend got the wrong signals, actually I know he did. Eh, what can ya do. We watched Star Trek & I thought it was surprisingly good!
Yesterday I:
-Made banana bread w/ Tara
-Dropped it off to Matt & Chris
-Went shopping w/ Ally
-Studied for mcomm :(
-Went to the hot cocoa place w/ ally & tara
-Came back & watched My Sister's Keeper [and CRIED, so sad.]

Today I woke up, got ready, & went to Justin's game. It was tied at 33 and they won in the last TWO seconds with a three pointer!! It was SO COOL. Totally worth going. Nowwww I am going to go running, it's absolutely gorgeous outside, and possible play racquetball. Then I have to take an exam :(.

So this was pretty much a journal entry, not very insightful at all, but oh well ! It's nice to spill my brain sometimes.

Get it girlllll.

Quick overview of yesterday:
-Slept till NOON, who does that?!
-Studied, took an ASL midterm, kicked butt :)
-Class
-Cooked dinner
-Pilates
-Haiti charity event

-Giggled in bed with Tara till about 2 a.m. & finally fell asleep


Life is such a crazy roller coaster! My goal in blogging was to remain somewhat discreet, and not keep record of too much negativity, but in order to really explain my day, a little negativity is necessary.

Last night I dreamed about unhealthy sandwiches & beating people up. Tara dreamed she was on a baseball team and her jersey said POOP on it. As in, POOP was her name. Bahah. I love that girl.

Okay so today. I woke up, got ready, went to class only to find that class was canceled due to an electrical fire! Pretty awesome right?! So Justin & I headed over to the cougar eat, met up with Mark & Caitlin, & sat and talked for a while. It was fine, definitely nothing special. But what can ya do? I walked home with Mark, and felt pretty uneasy about some things. Oh boy, hereeee we go.
Lately I have been feeling like maybe I tend to be too nice. Is that even possible? Don't get me wrong, I don't think I am some angel, I have my thoughts, but I have learned to keep them to myself. I have let countless people walk all over me, leave me, and then come back to do it again. Trevor for instance, took me on a date with another girl, and then when he wanted to date again this year, I went for it, only to again, get screwed over. The worst part though, is that I never said anything. What the cuss was wrong with me?!?! Goodness gracious. Now that I've delved into some of the personal history....

After two big decisions, Tara and I streaked in our living room [blinds closed, door locked, of course] and then proceeded to get ready for the temple!

I enjoyed my time there, and was really missing my Dad prior to going. I kept praying that I would be able to feel a big hug from Heavenly Father to remedy a little bit of the "missing Dad" deal. While I felt the spirit strongly, nothing was hitting me that hard. As soon as I entered the font I felt an overwhelming happiness. I immediately felt comforted, and tears began to stream out of my eyes. I could not stop smiling! I am sure I looked like a crazy lady, and really what's new?! It was fantastic. It was better than a hug. I felt the pure love of Christ surround me, and that my friends, is better than ANYTHING I could ask for.


Tara and I have since made dinner [chili, squash & green beans] and now she is napping, I am not very good at the whole napping deal SO I thought I would empty my brain of all of this craziness & leave it for you guys to digest!

Tonight will be a lovely GIRL'S NIGHT full of rock climbing & catching up :) Possibly Step Up later on? We will see.

Roses & Thorns

The past two days have definitely had their downs, but way too many ups for it even to matter!

Monday was made up of:
-Morning 3 mile run :) [aside from the altitude, pollution, and freezing air--it was amazing!]
-Pilates
-Submitting job applications via craigslist & getting 3 responses!
-An attempt to go to them temple
-Running errands/shopping
-Studying
-going to see fantastic mr. fox SO GOOD.

Today was also busy, I...
-Went to New Testament, love professor Huntington.
-Submitted letters of recommendation & filled out thank you cards
-Went to my other religion class :)
-Played racquetball w/ tara & then lifted weights!
-Went to institute for special needs to volunteer [so precious, I can honestly say I have felt the spirit stronger there than anywhere else.]
-STUDIEDDD.
-Hot tubbing w/ Matt, Nick, Chris, Justin, & Isaac [pretty much just met chris & isaac, way cool guys.]


bummers: I got a parking ticket, yuck. Hopefully I can appeal it & it will magically disappearrrrrrr ! Also, ambiguity is a big bummer, a big bummer it is.

Now for a quick tangent before bed:
I hate the chase, but at the same time, I freaking LOVE the chase. It's such a curse! I'm banking on the fact that I eventually get over chasing, but honestly I've spent so much of my life thus far tied down, that I'm nowhere near ready to do that again. I mean obviously, the grass always looks greener on the other side, but I'm pretty positive that if I were to end up in a relationship right now, I'd want out STAT. This year, a lot of my draw to boys has been the unavailableness. The second a guy comes too close, or shows to much interest, I seem to be done. So maybe they're playing it right--as annoying as that is. In conclusion, I want fun. Lots of freaking fun. Laid back, entirely for the heck of it, fun. The one condition being: people remain consistant, consistantly fun, consistantly there, and consistantly interested. Deal? I sure hope so.



In conclusion, I just have to say how fortunate I feel lately. So much is happening in the world, and people are living with significantly less than me. I have a loving family, an awesome best friend, an opportunity to attend college, a passion, a future profession, a knowledge of my Heavenly Father's deep-rooted love for me, and a sense of self-worth. I am so dang lucky, it really isn't even funny.

Life has been SO fetus crazy.

You want some spicy THAI?! w/ally&andre

He's kind of a creep, & when I say kind of, I mean REALLY.

New hot cocoa & cupcake place, so yummy! Not a bad date either!

Pilates & Biggest Loser with Kyle! love him.

ALSO,
Yesterday I received two letters. Both of which were quite impactful.

Johnny's letter: It consisted of him saying how much he appreciates me. A while back he made a statement saying "I think you're attractive, but I'm not attracted to you." Wow did I not like that! The funny thing was, within a day I was absolutely over the whole thing, and have not really thought twice about my feelings beyond friendship for him since. The letter went on to explain that statement, and it was so sweet. He said many nice things, a lot of which were things I needed to hear very much at that moment. It is always so nice to feel appreciated.

Ethan's letter: First off, I was not even expecting to receive a letter from this boy! I was so shocked when I got it and SO excited. A picture was enclosed, and he started it off with the sarcasm I'm used to, and my heart just started racing again, I was really surprised to feel this way! He seems to be doing so well in Brazil, and loving the mission. I miss him more than I realized. He closed the letter with his apologies of the way he treated me at the end of last year, and saying that if conditions allow, when he returns we should give it another chance. That was a shocker. In all honesty, I would be more than willing. He holds so many of the characteristics I forsee in a spouse. I enjoyed my time with him SO much, and am just so happy to be in contact with him, and so grateful for his apologies. I know it takes a lot to humble yourself like that, so I found it very admirable.

ALSOOOO:

Tara came home from church today with a love note for me! I cannot even explain how much this girl means to me! She is such a blessing in my life. This is what the letter said:
You get a HUGE love note this week! I just wanted to express how grateful I am to have you as my best friend. I feel that you have taught me so much and I love that I can just be myself around you and you accept that. One of the things I feel like I've really learned to improve on from your example is how to love people and express it. I've told you before and you know, that before I was SUPER reserved at expressing my feelings especially one as important as love. I'm grateful that you have made me realize that it is okay to tell friends & family that you love them and greet them with huge hugs and smiles. I think that this small change in my life has made a bigger difference in my relationship with everyone. I find my dad sometimes beating me in saying it first! :)
This is only one example of how I feel you have blessed my life, I couldn't have asked for a better "spouse" during my young adult years! I am so proud of you and all of the changes you have made in your life. In the long run you will see how much those changes have changed your life if you don't already realize it. I love you!
Tara Bird
PS The emergency response plan is true doctrine, FOLLOW IT! lol.

WOW am I lucky. I feel like each of these letters have been an answer to my prayers. I have been struggling with drawing the line at what I can expect from people and how I deserve to be treated. Too many times in the past have I settled for less. I look around now and realize how many special people I have in my life. I am so fortunate to be blessed with such a great family and such a great circle of friends. While it can be frustrating to be treated worse than you feel you deserve, I think that it is also my responsibility to be patient with others--afterall, I have an entire back up behind me cheering me on--I think I can handle one or two people in my life who aren't Class-A cheerleaders.



On a more serious note...




Today in church we had a FANTASTIC speaker from the Stake. He was absolutely captivating and I felt that I could really relate to all he was teaching. He spoke about how he had converted to the church and married a widow who already had five children from her previous marriage. He told us how they were all sealed to one another and it got me thinking about how grateful I am for the blessing of being sealed to my family for time and all eternity. I love this picture below, because it is one that CLEARLY would not be here if my Dad had not chosen to join the church. My life has been so blessed by the gospel, I have been able to overcome obstacles that would have been seemingly impossible without the atonement in my life.

These were a few of my absolute favorite statements:

• There is no marriage that can survive without a healthy does of forgiveness. [I could not agree more with this! Even in my friendships and interaction with siblings & parents, I have had to practice a dang BIG dose of forgiveness, as have they with me. It has shaped our relationships into healthy and strong ones though, the act of humbling oneself and willingly forgiving only opens a door to a bond that is nearly impossible to break.]
  
• Don't wait for the perfect person, take about 80%, actually girls, you might even need to take 70%. [LOVED this. I think sometimes since I have been in a serious relationship in the past, I expect boys to measure up to the positives of that relationship, and all together forget the negatives that existed. In reality, many of the boys I have dated surpassed past boyfriends exponentially. Just being LDS and sharing common standards puts them on an entirely different pedestal.While I am confident that anyone I have let go, or anyone that has let go of me is not the one I still think it is important to remember that improvement comes with time, and I am not ANYWHERE near perfect, so there is no way I can expect any of the "him"s to be.]
  
• The worst day married is better than the best day single. [I have questions about this one to be honest, but if it is true than married life for me is going to be ROCKIN. I have loved the single life & girl time, so if that I what I have to look forward to, then bring it on!]
• Lets say you live 100 years, a pretty long life here in mortality. That would mean that you were only absent from Kolob for 2 hours and 24 minutes. That's NOTHING! Lord of the Rings is longer than that! [I loved this. I think it really puts things into perspective. It gives me a stronger desire to suceed, I can't really explain why...but I guess if this is such a small period in my life, and I have all eternity to live with my family & other loved ones, then it is absolutely worth it to stay on track. The prize to be one is inmeasureable!]
• By all standards of the world, we are weird, but you know what, we are right and they are wrong. [Quite a bold statement, and we hear it often, but I'll explain why it cut so deeply today. I think today, when I heard him say this, I felt, for the very first time, 100% positive that the words coming out of his mouth were true. I have no doubt that this is the true gospel, that everything we read in the Book of Mormon, everything we hear from the Prophets, and everything I have been taught since a very young age, is true. This is such a comfort. I hope from this day on that I never wonder again. I feel so solid in this belief and so strengthened by it!]
  

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THE FIVES:

5 favorite things to do-

1. Talk especially if it involves sharing secrets!
2. Work with the mentally/physically disabled
   
3. Pilates
4. DANCE.
5. Cooking & reading are tied
   

5 top priorities-

1. Having the spirit in my life consistantly
2. Making sure my family knows I love them always
   
3. Exercise
   
4. Keeping up with classes & being accepted into the program
5. Constantly evolving/changing

5 most influential people (and why)-

1. My mom- I have never had a better connection with someone. She has been there for me through thick and thin, and the good and the bad. Her commitment to me and everyone else in her life is never ending. I feel a comfort from her that I experience from no one else in my life. She is an example of turning a less desirable circumstance into a perfect one. I seek her advice on EVERYTHING now, and speak to her several times each day! I miss her more than words can express, and wish I had cherished our friendship years ago, but I feel like we have done a dang good job of catching up for lost time :)
   
2. My dad- He is such a champ! I have always had a special bond with my dad, just thinking about him makes me incredibly happy. I appreciate the unique father-daughter relationship we hold, I have always been able to be 100% open with him about anything, and he always responded with genuine concern and advice. He stuck with me when I was not at my best, and supported me until I changed my life around. The best part about my dad has to be how much he loves me, I can feel it 24/7, even when he is gone, like now, I can feel how much he adores me, and that means the world.
   
3. Bonnie- She is such an example of service. Every time I think of her my heart fills with love. She has always been such a blessing in my life, I remember her comforting me many times when I strayed down the wrong path. I was always afraid of her thinking less of me, but only felt that she loved me more. I really do not think she understands the impact she has had, but it is unmeasurable.
4. Ellie & Maggie- These two get put together because so much of what they have done and continue to do for me is mutual. The bond us three share is absolutely incredible. I never laugh harder than when I am with them. They show genuine concern for my happiness, react defensively if I am hurting, and always think I am the funniest person alive. I cannot even put into words how I feel about them, they know exactly how to get a rise out of me, and exactly how to make me laugh, they know every single detail about my life, about my history, and they accept me still. They have forgiven me time & time again when I could not forgive myself. They have both stepped it up to be my older sisters at different times, and for this, I am FOREVER grateful.
5. Tara- It is hard for me to really describe what this girl means to me. I think a lot of people have best friendships, and a lot of girls spend the bulk of their time together, but Tara and I have something really special. She is the first person I talk to each day, and the last, I share every detail, no matter how unimportant with her always. She always shows genuine interest in what I am saying, and reacts happily when I am happy, and hurts when I am hurting. I feel the absolute same way towards her. I love her as if she is my sister, and I am so so grateful to have someone so pure and authentic in my life.

5 favorite things-

1. Music
2. Holidays
   
3. Zebras
4. Toys/Toy stores
5. Lacrosse

5 future dreams

1. Sky dive
2. Run a half-marathon
3. Become fluent in Sign Language
4. Travel internationally with my sisters
5. Be married in the Portland temple [FAR OFF]

The end.

A little taste of cloud nine

CRAZY last couple of days !

SATURDAY consisted of:


Learning to play raquetball with Tara :)


Football Game vs CSU with Mark, Ally, & Andre followed by In & Out



Rock Climbing for the first time with Ally, Andre, & Mark--LOVED IT.


Later that night I hung out with Ally, and then Justin for a while which was way fun!

SUNDAYY-

Church & then....


Car ride with Matt Boyce & Tara !


Hot tubbing w/ Nick, Andre, Ally, Matt, Tara, Hannah & Mark :)


Gestures, Matt decided to hide under the blanket.

MONDAY--


Sledding :)....or attempting !


Dancing the ENTIRE two hours home---hollllllerrrr.

Then I....

• Went out with Leanne to run errands
• Talked with Sam & Jaxon for a bit
• Went to Leanne's get together but had to leave early
• Studied New Testament w/ Justin & met Evan, Katie, & Mama & his girlfriend.
  
• Watched Coach Carter
• Stayed up talking to Ellie & Tara, and FINALLY fell asleep.

Today has been full of class, napping, nail painting, & institute for individuals with disabilities soon :)

My policy is: "No stone throwing regardless of housing situation." Don't do it.

My very first BLOG. SO I have always been really disappointed about the fact that I can't remember a lot of things from when I was younger, and then I realized the other day that I've hardly grown up, and that the memories I am making now are practically just as good and equally as childish so I should record them! I am really hoping that this will work better for me than regular journals. I hope to just use it to highlight the best times and pretend the worst don't happen :)

Past two weeks:

Pizza Pie Birthday Party

Lots of people, Lots of pizza, & LOTS of fun!

Surprise Birthday Party

FIVE LAYER CAKE, made my Ian & Ashleigh and of course a War head Competition.


Sandy Escapade

Hot tubbing :)

Freezing OUT.

Sledding down an icy patch!

BIRTHDAY SONG, BY JC MARTIN.

This song was written & performed by one of my best friends, & I could not be more grateful/excited about it! I had a song written for ME, How COOL is that?!


This past week has been full of:

• Exercising
• School & Homework
• Shopping
• Cooking
• Game night (W/ our new game Loaded Questions, SO FUN.) Best quote of the night was easily, "How am I supposed to fall asleep with this STD staring at me all night!?!"
• Birthday Lunch with Leanne @ GURUS
  
• Crepes & Kisses party, BREAKING IT DOWN w/ Hannah!
  
• Sleep over with Hannah, and pretty much Mark considering he stayed till about four thirty a.m.

Disabled Dating: is it Beneficial or Detrimental?

Although it may be something that we do not ponder often, it is a very prevalent issue within the disabled community. I found it fascinating to read about the instruction provided for those who are disabled and seeking to date. It is such a natural human instinct that we have, to desire the love and company of another, so it seems like common sense that those who have disabilities would hold that desire as well. While I imagine that the dating websites would be convenient, I wonder whether it is just one more way our society ostracizes those with disabilities. I was glad to see that there are sites, and social events geared towards individuals with disabilities meeting others with disabilities, but I feel like it may send the message that they are only welcome to that one option which is, dating someone who has a disability like themselves. After reading these articles, what is your reaction to the services provided and the instruction given? Do you see them as beneficial or detrimental to the disabled community?

Reach Out For Dating Services For Disabled

Author: Peter Finch

There are innumerable dating services for disabled websites on the internet. They offer special services to their users or members. Many of these websites for the disabled also feature dating services for their members. They help and assist in bringing together like minded people who, besides companionship issues, need to deal with their disabilities.



As with normal people, the need to feel loved and wanted is very real for the disabled. The need for intimacy is very real, though there are many physical and emotional barriers that the disabled needs to overcome. The society sets a very high standard of virtue and beauty and some disabled people feel that they are unable to meet these standards.



Many times, these standards can be very challenging, especially for the disabled, as they do not fit into the mould. Many of the disabled have negative thoughts and feel inferior when they can not meet the standards that have been set for them by the society.



Since dating services for disabled websites offer services and resources for dating, it becomes much simpler for the disabled to look for companions. The advantage of the internet is that it makes people anonymous. They are not judged outright on their physical aspects. This gives the disabled singles ample scope for interaction without having to worry about their disability. The relationship centers more on making a connection and a bond. In this environment, relationships blossom. Inhibitions are reduced when online disabled people actually meet face to face. There would be no awkwardness when they meet offline.



The dating services for disabled websites help the disabled to voice their concerns. It gives a bouncing board and a chatting board to share their thoughts and feelings. Issues can be highlighted while tips are well appreciated. It is a meeting ground for people of like minds. Many problems are discussed and solutions are found from within the community.



These services provide a networking platform, not just for disabled but for those who are looking for relationships. Many of the dating services for disabled websites postings are ways through which people can vent out their feelings or just simply talk to each other. For many people, anxieties are overcome when they talk. It helps the disabled to combat the feeling of loneliness.



Many of those accessing these sites are able bodied. Or many are those who are living with disabled partners. These websites also offer them advice on how to cope with various insecurities and anxieties that are faced by both the able bodied and the disabled. There are many people out there who are also interested in dating the disabled.



These websites offer the opportunity to all sections of the society, where the society could not have given them these chances. There are so many sites and so many people, who are actively connected that the chances of finding a companion are greatly enhanced. Where earlier there were only friends and family who did the networking, now the disabled can also network with the help of dating services for disabled websites.

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Dating Disabled Woman - What You Should Know?

Author: Peter Finch

Do you know that the elderly disabled people are shocked when they hear about disabled people dating? This is because until recent time, the society considered disabled people as asexual beings. Disabled individuals are also human beings and they also crave for love and companionship just like anyone else. Disabled people had trouble finding potential mates before and those who had severe disabilities had little or no chance of finding potential mates. It is no wonder that elderly disabled people find it shocking to hear disabled men dating disabled women.



It was never easy for a disabled woman to meet people like the rest of the normal woman. Ever since the dating agencies and online disabled websites started to work together to eradicate this problem, it has become possible for disabled women as well as men to date.



Dating disabled woman is no different than dating a "normal" woman. This is because one would find the same amount of apprehension, excitement, fun and passion when dating the disabled woman as well as a normal woman. If the woman you are dating has been confined to a wheel chair then make sure that you take her to a restaurant that offers wheel chair facilities. There are these small but important things that you will need to look into when you are dating a disabled woman.



The introduction phase is very important while dating disabled woman. This is the moment when two people would get to know each other. Try to find out how sensitive she is about her disability when you meet her for the first time. You should do this because you need to understand her before deciding to carry your relationship forward. Do not say things that would hurt her feelings and you should also not completely overlook her disability.



There are a lot of people who feel over conscious about their partners disability and they prefer not to make any comments that might make the woman uncomfortable. This kind of attitude does not make the woman feel comfortable at all. It would only make her feel inferior.



While dating a woman with disability, you should make allowances for the disability that the person may have but do not make it too obvious. Try to put a balance between the two.



While dating disabled woman, it is always better to get a good understanding of the kind of disability she has; irrespective of whether you are a normal man or whether you are a disabled man. This will help you understand your partner and make you more tuned to her needs. With this kind of mature understanding, the whole process of dating would become much more fun and it would be a thoroughly enjoyable experience for both of you.



To make the dating disabled woman much easier and comfortable, dating agencies and online dating sites are working side by side. It is because of their efforts that the darkness of yesterday has faded away and tomorrows sun is going to bring an even better future.

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Top Concerns About Dating That Worry Disabled People

Author: Peter Finch

Dating can be a fun and exciting way to make new friends and find that someone special. But at the same time it can be stressful, worrying and quite difficult!



All men and women share some basic concerns. The same dating worries plague disabled people too. But in addition there are some special concerns that revolve around disability itself.



A glance at the message board of any disabled dating site reveals the host of anxieties that cloud the horizon. Dating presents a real challenge for disabled people and queries range from handling the first date to fertility issues.



Some of the common concerns are -



Self consciousness - Feeling that everyone-is-looking-at-me is quite often a constant companion of disabled singles. However, for a relationship to work, both parties have to like the other for themselves. So, while the dating partner has to look beyond the disability, the disabled person too has to stop constantly trying to assess the others reactions!



Companionship - Most singles share this concern and for those living with a limiting disability, it is one of the primary reasons for entering into a dating relationship. Finding the right partner and coping with the future as a single are a constant worry. Hence combating feelings of loneliness and a need for companionship rank high on the list of concerns.



Attitudes towards the disabled - When dating able bodied persons, disabled people are concerned about how their disability will be received. Two people may have been connecting online for a while but when they decide to meet in person, both are worried about the disability angle. They are conscious that believing something in theory and being able to live out those beliefs in reality are different ball games altogether.



And hence the fear of whether the impairment will prove repulsive and how it will affect the relationship surfaces. The dating site Lovebyrd advises -You are not defined by your disability, so do not let your disability represent you on your date.



Sustaining long term relationships - Many of those who are in dating relationships wonder whether they will be able to sustain them in the long run. For the disabled in particular, the worry is how their partner will cope with the day-to-day challenges of living with a disability.



Sexual desirability and performance - While dating, disabled people tend to be very conscious of how desirable they appear to their partner. Feelings of inadequacy and low self-image raise their ugly heads and if these thoughts are not combated successfully they can hamper the relationship and prevent both partners from having a good time.



Sexual performance can be hampered by impairment and problems like impotency and loss of libido are very real. How this will impact the relationship depends on the strength of the bond formed earlier.



Fertility issues - Fertility problems and the possibility of not being able to have children are issues that many disabled people are challenged with. The dating relationship can be affected by this and the reaction of the partner becomes vital to the continuance of the alliance.



The only solution to this is an open discussion. Do not be afraid to voice your concerns - only then will you know what the person at the other end feels. Be confident about yourself and it will all work out!

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